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Dec 2024
51m 32s

E358 | BEST OF & MOST SHARED: E281: How ...

Brett Bartholomew
About this episode

This week, we’re revisiting one of our most popular episodes, because the questions about this topic just keep coming! While giving feedback is a skill many want to master, the real secret lies in learning how to receive it. (’Tis the inverse of the season)

Hearing where we can improve is tough, and the common advice about giving feedback—like the “sandwich technique”—often falls flat in real-world situations. Instead of sharing surface-level tactics, we’re diving into strategies that actually work, both for receiving and giving feedback effectively.

In this throwback episode, we cover:

  • The science behind why we often respond poorly to feedback
  • Why rationalizing doesn’t help (and how to stop doing it)
  • What to say when you receive feedback you don’t understand or agree with
  • When it’s appropriate to reject someone’s feedback

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Related Episodes:

E194 | How To Become A Better Listener

E127 | How To Give The Most Effective Feedback

E85 | Why Won’t They Listen To Me? Reasons Your Message Isn’t Getting Across

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