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Dec 2024
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E357 | One of My Favorite Tools for Avoi...

Brett Bartholomew
About this episode

Regret. It’s a loaded word, especially around the holidays. 

But it doesn’t have to be as painful as it seems. Imagine the peace of mind that comes with knowing you’ve done everything in your power to let someone truly understand where you’re coming from and why. How can we hold ourselves accountable and ensure we’re not the problem in those critical moments?

Maybe you’re one of the lucky ones who doesn’t have heavy personal issues to navigate. Instead, you want to show up for your team, lead with intention, and set bold goals for the year ahead. To do that, clear communication skills are essential, not just for closing this year but for leveling up in the next.

Here’s the truth: self-awareness is a gift greater than anything you’ll find under the tree. This episode is packed with actionable strategies to help you be more present and intentional in every moment of your life, whether big or small.

In this episode, Brett discusses:

  • Multiple frameworks to evaluate and improve any interaction
  • The importance of removing the mask and showing up authentically in conversations
  • Avoidance patterns and the hidden cost of not engaging
  • *BONUS* A script to coax someone into loosening a verbal headlock

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Related Episodes:

E350 | The End Of The Year Goal Audit You Need

E351 | The Accountability Gap & Facing Uncomfortable Growth

E269 | How To Ask Better Questions

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