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Dec 2024
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How To Talk To Yourself When Things Suck...

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Smart strategies that emerged from a brutal year. 


Sam Sanders is an award-winning reporter, radio host and podcaster. He co-hosts the podcast Vibe Check with Zach Stafford and Saeed Jones. He also currently hosts The Sam Sanders Show from KCRW. Check out the album he mentioned in the episode, Caroline Rose's The Art of Forgetting


This is part 2 in a 3-part series we're running on grief.


In this episode we talk about:

  • The fact that there is no right way to deal with grief 
  • The value of feeling your feelings — even though it sucks 
  • Why it can be helpful to take breaks from your grief without guilt
  • The importance of joy and play 
  • The changing nature of grief
  • What it means to be "anointed" by grief
  • And what it looks like to maintain a relationship with someone even after they've died



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