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Dec 2024
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The Science Of Grief: What Helps, What D...

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A journalist explores one of humanity's most brutal and unavoidable experiences.


Cody Delistraty is a writer and speechwriter, most recently working as the culture editor at the Wall Street Journal Magazine. He has written for The New York Times, The New Yorker, The Atlantic, and was the European arts columnist for The Paris Review. He has degrees in politics from New York University and in history from the University of Oxford. British Vogue named him a best young writer of the year, and he has given talks about art and creativity to companies like PwC. He lives in New York City.


In this episode we talk about:

  • Why our culture is so repressed when it comes to grief
  • We dive into the many experiments that Cody launched to help cope with loss; from book and laughter therapy, to psilocybin and AI
  • The concept of grief as an addiction 
  • The importance of rituals 
  • The scientific possibility of deleting our memories to avoid pain 
  • And how to live along side of grief when there is no cure



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#583. Jennifer Senior On: Grief, Happiness, Friendship Breakups, and Why We Feel Younger Than Our Actual Age

Joe DiNardo, Grief and Meditation


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