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Dec 2024
15m 38s

The Truth about Mr. Darcy + Nonviolent C...

Mindset & Communication Coach Sarah Mikutel
About this episode

Mr. Darcy has been on my mind this week. Not because he’s the fantasy of so many women, but because I finally read Pride and Prejudice, and discovered something shocking (to me) about him. 


I’d always thought of Mr. Darcy as this tall, brooding, misunderstood character. The fabulously wealthy, handsome man who everyone thinks is a jerk, but secretly has a heart of gold and wants to take care of you. This is why women have been obsessed with him for hundreds of years. The strong, silent, mysterious hero. 


But that’s not who he starts out as in the book. 


Reading Pride and Prejudice reveals so much more about him, and about what it takes to change and grow. 


In this episode, I’ll share what Mr. Darcy’s transformation can teach us about:

  1. how honest conversations can lead to personal transformation – for you and the person you’re speaking with.
  2. why hard conversations are worth having, even when they feel risky or uncomfortable.
  3. what Stoic principles and practical communication tools can help us handle conflict gracefully.


By the way – hello! I’m your host, Sarah Mikutel, an American writer, communication coach, and practicing Stoic based in England.


sarahmikutel.com


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