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Nov 2024
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E352 | Q&A: How to Manage a Talented But...

Brett Bartholomew
About this episode

When they’re your best player or most productive employee, but ALSO the biggest thorn in your side. 

We’ve all been there and had to deal with the type. What do you do?

This episode transcends the specific context of coaching a high school athlete to tackle a broader, universal challenge faced by leaders, managers, and professionals everywhere. Whether you’re navigating a workplace dynamic, coaching a team, or leading a group, this discussion will equip you with strategies to help difficult individuals recognize their behavior, foster deeper connections, and ultimately drive meaningful improvement.

Brett dives into actionable insights to help you set boundaries, uncover root issues, and avoid falling into the trap of enabling destructive patterns.

In this episode, we explore:

  • The importance of setting realistic expectations
  • How to systematically funnel multiple issues to uncover the core problem
  • The real reason behind narcissistic and emotionally immature behavior
  • Facing conflict head-on and the danger of shielding people from consequences 

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Referenced Resource:

E313 | How To Communicate With Someone Who Shuts Down or Stonewalls 

Book: Conscious Coaching

Free Webinar on Creating Optimal Coaching Environment

Article: The Role of Athlete Narcissism in Moderating the Relationship Between Coaches’ Transformational Leader Behaviors and Athlete Motivation

E202 | Why Facts And Logic Don’t Change Our Minds

Recommended Resource:

Conscious Coaching Field Guide (free download)

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