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Nov 2024
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When You Try To Control Something, It Of...

Allison Carmen
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Most of us don’t realize that the decisions we make each day aren’t guarantees; they’re more about probability or possibility than certainty. While this might initially make us feel stressed, this realization is actually the key to our freedom. If we truly accept that we can’t control everything, then neither people nor situations can control us either. Listen to this podcast to discover how letting go of our need for control—and the control others have over us—can open us up to embracing uncertainty and all its limitless possibilities. We can make decisions guided by the wisdom we have, trusting it’s for our highest good, and access the infinite potential of an unknown future!

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