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Nov 2024
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#96 - Signs of an Abusive Relationship w...

Sarah Yudkin
About this episode

This is a long overdue episode to explore signs of what an abusive relationship is and isn’t. I often give the disclaimer “my work does not apply to abusive relationships” and wanted to have a licensed therapist explain the types of abuse so people are aware.

 

And who better than Dr. Molly Burrets, a licensed clinical psychologist based in Los Angeles with 15 years of experience practicing psychotherapy, conducting research, and teaching at the undergraduate and graduate levels. 

 

In the episode, we mentioned resources for people experiencing abuse in an intimate relationship:

 

peaceoverviolence.org

 

Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network (RAINN) – 800.656.HOPE (4673)

 

National Domestic Violence Hotline – 800.799.SAFE (7233), 800.787.3224 TDD

 

Books:

 

The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize It and How to Respond

by Patricia Evans

 

The Dance of Anger: A Woman’s Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships

by Harriet Lerner

 

The Emotionally Abused Woman: Overcoming Destructive Patterns and Reclaiming Yourself

by Beverly Engel

 

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma

by Bessel van der Kolk

 

For more of Molly’s work, check out:

www.drmollyburrets.com

www.instagram.com/drmollyburrets

 

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