logo
episode-header-image
Oct 2024
1h 21m

Gabor Mate: Your Partner Choice Reveals ...

WNTT
About this episode

In this episode, Dr. Gabor Maté, a world-renowned expert on trauma, stress and addiction, reveals how childhood experiences and emotional suppression deeply shape our relationships and overall wellbeing. He explains how unresolved trauma from our early years can lead to stress and challenges in adult relationships, and offers powerful insights on how embracing vulnerability and authenticity can foster healing and transformation in both one's personal life and relationships.

Whether you're dealing with relationship challenges or seeking personal growth, Dr. Maté’s wisdom provides a path to healing and improvement, by understanding the root causes of emotional suppression and learning to live more authentically.


Follow Gabor’s work here:

On Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/BHvQI3ZySNb/

..and his latest book, The Myth of Normal - https://g2ul0.app.link/gOaWoFWySNb/



Follow me here:

https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk

https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod



00:00 Introduction  

01:52 Career Change Tips for Older Adults  

04:27 How the Mind-Body Connection Impacts Relationships  

11:51 How to Choose the Right Partner for Long-Term Happiness  

13:08 Why Authenticity Matters in and out of Relationships  

16:19 How Childhood Attachments Shape Your Adult Relationships  

18:25 How to Be Your Most Authentic Self the Power of Saying No  

28:41 How Social Status Affects Relationships  

29:54 Different Types of Stress and How to Manage Them  

36:37 Is Your Partner Hurting Your Well-Being  

44:54 How to Develop a Secure Attachment in Relationships  

49:10 The Health Effects of Avoidant and Anxious Attachment Styles  

54:03 The Link Between Addiction and Attachment Styles  

01:02:15 What Is Trauma and How Does It Affect You  

01:05:41 How Many People Are Living with Trauma Today  

01:07:30 How to Heal from Trauma and Move Forward  

01:12:02 Important Topics That Need More Attention  

01:15:24 Most Memorable Conversations on Relationships  

01:17:24 Key Takeaways from This Discussion



Sponsored by:

Fiverr: https://fvrr.co/paul/

Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB/

Up next
Aug 21
Talia Mar, YUNGBLUD,⁩ & Jordan Stephens on Love & Dating | We’re Talking: Love Stories
Talia Mar reveals how she met Simon Minter (Miniminter), the bold social media move that caught his attention, and the truth about their first date. She shares what made Simon so attractive and why their relationship works. Yungblud opens up about his sexuality, why his relations ... Show More
31m 44s
Aug 19
Little Mix's Perrie Edwards: I’ve Never Spoken About THIS Before! And Why I Hated My Public Breakup
Little Mix star Perrie Edwards opens up about her journey from a shy girl in South Shields to global superstardom, and for the first time, the private battles she fought along the way. From life-threatening childhood illness and years of surgery, to panic attacks so severe she co ... Show More
1h 45m
Aug 14
Tulisa: “I Sleep with a Knife!” | We’re Talking: Shocking Stories
Tulisa reveals the details of the most shocking chapter of her life, one that forced her to sleep with a knife for protection. She opens up about the infamous sting operation that targeted her, the shocking details of who was behind it, and how it turned her world upside down. (0 ... Show More
23m 59s
Recommended Episodes
Apr 2024
#48 How Trauma Affects Your Romantic Relationships With Esin Pinarli, LCSW MCAP
What if your past didn’t have to dictate your future? Esin Pinarli is a human behavior specialist offering psychotherapy to couples, using the Imago and Gottman methods in conjunction with emotional-focused therapy. She joins us to share her perspective on the deep-rooted beliefs ... Show More
48m 51s
Dec 2024
The Body Trauma Expert: Medicating Kids Can Harm Brain Development! Eye Movement Trick That Fixes Trauma! The Secret To EMDR Therapy! - Bessel van Der Kolk
50-70% of people will experience a trauma in their life, but how do you heal from these devastating experiences? If the Body Keeps the Score, according to Bessel van der Kolk this is how you get even with trauma. Bessel van der Kolk is Professor of Psychiatry at Boston University ... Show More
2h 4m
Jan 2025
FEARFUL AVOIDANT: 11 Signs Your Attachment Trauma is Rooted in PARENTIFICATION
Start the new year with purpose! Experience personalized courses on relationship with avoidants, live webinars & Q&As, and more for FREE for 7 days! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=new-year-7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic ... Show More
52m 21s
Oct 2024
#424 How To Reparent Yourself, with Dr. Dan Siegel
Ever feel like the love, support, or security you needed growing up was just… missing? And now, you’re feeling the effects in your relationships, your self-esteem, or even your ability to create the life you *really* want? If this hits home, don’t worry—you’re not stuck! This wee ... Show More
49m 38s
Dec 2024
The Relationship History of the Dismissive Avoidant...
Take advantage of our Boxing Week Sale! Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for FREE for 7 days! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=boxing-week-7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-12-10-24&el= ... Show More
19m 56s
Oct 2024
Thais Gibson: How Attachment Styles Control Your Love Life and How to Reprogram It
What if your childhood experiences shaped your relationships more than you ever realized? In today’s episode, I’m joined by Thais Gibson, an expert in attachment theory, who reveals how our subconscious rules for love shape every connection we form. Thais breaks down how these at ... Show More
1h 15m
Nov 2024
Attachment, Relational Stress, and Rewiring Complex Trauma
What happens in the brain when a stress response is activated ? How does developmental trauma shapes our nervous system and subconscious reactions as adults?   Today, we're answering those questions and diving deeper into how the brain develops through social interactions, why so ... Show More
1h 2m
Dec 2024
THESE Are the Top Triggers for An Anxious Partner (& How to Solve Them)
Take advantage of our Boxing Week Sale! Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for FREE for 7 days! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=boxing-week-7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-12-30-24&el= ... Show More
56m 25s
Oct 2024
How Increased Self-Awareness Can Heal Your Hidden Trauma with Dr. Paul Conti
Are hidden traumas silently controlling your life and health? This might be one of the most important conversations I’ve ever had on the show—Dr. Paul Conti, a world-class expert on trauma, joins me to reveal how the emotional wounds you’re carrying might be holding you back more ... Show More
1h 1m