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Oct 2024
31m 22s

E346 | The Cost of Silence and Not Putti...

Brett Bartholomew
About this episode

We’ve all heard the motivational phrase, “Failure isn’t an option.” It sounds inspiring, but is it really true? 

Failure, in reality, is an option—often chosen in the form of inaction, silence, or the unwillingness to engage. How many times have you held back an idea, avoided speaking up, or let a moment pass because of the fear of judgment? Playing it safe is extremely tragic.

In today’s episode, we’re diving into the cost of silence and the hidden price we pay by not putting ourselves out there. What’s really stopping us from stepping forward? And what can we do to shift from apprehension to action? 

In this tough love episode, Brett takes the gloves off and gets real about:

  • The evolutionary roots behind our fear of rejection
  • How our ego is the true source behind our hesitation to engage
  • Criticism, its inevitability, and how to turn it into data
  • Harnessing pride as a shield to protect against self-devaluation
  • Navigating the fear of success versus the fear of failure

Referenced Episodes:

E259 | Understanding and Overcoming Perfectionism

E105 | Overcoming Imposter Phenomenon

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