Most people never consider that fighting can be a useful and healthy practice for our relationships — and that “fighting well” is a skill that can be learned. We resist conflict until it builds up and we reach a breaking point, and then BAM! Our trauma runs the show and we risk re-traumatizing ourselves and others.
In this episode, Joe and Brett talk about ... Show More
Oct 28
How to Actually Feel Your Feelings - Teaching from Tara
In this teaching, Tara Howley explores what it actually means to feel an emotion. She shares how to move from the story into the body, recognize when one emotion is standing in for another, and bring warm attention to what you feel without trying to make it disappear.We put toget ... Show More
11m 43s
Oct 14
Enlightenment Is Porn for Perfectionists - Teaching from Joe
For years Joe treated spiritual practice like a self-improvement project - perfect diet, perfect posture, perfectly quiet mind. It made meditation miserable, so he didn't do it. In this video: why any practice built on correcting yourself slows you down, how to enjoy a practice y ... Show More
14m 36s
Jul 2024
How To Fight Without Fighting (Part 1)
In this episode, John and Vanessa discuss the value of fighting in relationships and how to fight without actually fighting. They emphasize the importance of understanding before trying to be understood, shifting from a combative approach to a more empathetic one, being aware of ... Show More
21m 34s
Nov 2022
How to Handle Conflict Better
Whether it be with family, friends, teammates or strangers, handling conflict with everyone's best interest in mind takes true skill. In this episode, learn 3 key pillars to handling challenging interactions like a pro. “Conflict and crisis aren’t going away, building relationshi ... Show More
43m 58s
Aug 2022
Workout: Healthy Communication
From time to time, we all have disagreements with those we care about most. In this episode, learn powerful approaches to overcome challenging conversations with loved ones, so that everyone leaves the experience feeling heard, understood, and cared for. "We think we’re fighting ... Show More
7m 12s
Feb 2024
Good Conflict: How Healthy Disagreements Build Stronger Connections
Think conflict is bad? Think again!In this episode of Take Out Therapy, we’re flipping the script on conflict and exploring how it can actually be a powerful tool for growth and connection. Avoiding conflict might feel easier, but it can hold you back from deeper, more meaningful ... Show More
19m 14s
Mar 2023
104. 3 Essential Skills for Managing Conflict
<p>Have you ever wished to be heard, that you felt safe to bring up difficult topics, or maybe you just wanted you and your partner to be good role models for your kids when it comes to how to fight?</p>
<p>If you have, this episode is for you. </p>
<p>In this episode, we cover a ... Show More
16m 48s
Jul 2025
Conflict in Relationships: Why We React the Way We Do (And How to Change It)
Conflict is part of every relationship, but how we handle it is what really matters.In the final episode of our mini-series with cognitive neuroscientist Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa, we’re diving into what’s actually happening in your brain during conflict, and how your patterns, re ... Show More
45m 17s