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Oct 2024
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How to Set Your Self Free and Be More Yo...

Sarah Archer: Speaker, Comedian, Author, Playwright and Coach
About this episode

The definition of ‘self-expression’ is the expression of one's feelings, thoughts, or ideas, through words, choices or actions, especially in writing, art, music, or dance.

Sounds easy doesn’t it? 

 

The trouble is that we are all so bogged down with messages about how we should look, think, speak, and act; that it can make it difficult to let go of expectations and simply be ourselves… and for women this conditioning has many additional layers!

 What about you? 

How fully self-expressed are you?

Do you want to speak on stage but feel like an imposter positioning yourself as an expert in your niche?

Maybe you do speak, but on stage you find yourself playing safe, or trying to be what you think a presenter should be instead of sharing your personality with the audience?

Well, my guest today will be sharing some ideas to help you to be more you. 

Michelle Minnikin is a  Chartered Organisational Psychologist, speaker coach, and author of Good Girl Deprogramming.

For many years Michelle struggled under the weight of expectations, playing small, putting herself last and being a ‘good girl’, without even realising she was doing it. 

Eventually she discovered she was suffering from ‘good girl conditioning’!

In this show she shines a light on what that is and how it has disempowered women for years, decades, and generations. 

And whether you’re a man or a woman, who is burdened by how you are told you should be … you will get tips in this show, for how to deprogram that conditioning and set yourself free!

 

What you’ll discover:

  • How Michelle became a rebel and why
  • Why Michelle is to women like Orpheus is to Neo in the matrix
  • What’s on the other side of good girl conditioning. 
  • The resistance she has encountered to her book and ideas. 
  • How you can tell if you’re a good girl. 
  • How good girl conditioning may be holding you back.
  • The three biggest things organisations can do to enable women to fulfil their potential.
  • What obstacles you might encounter on the way to being fully self-expressed. 
  • The biggest challenges Michelle has encountered in creating her signature keynote

 

All things Michelle:

Good Girl Deprogramming Ebook and Paperback available at all good bookshops

Good Girl Deprogramming (Amazon) 

Good Girl Deprogramming (Audible)

Find out if you’re a Good Girl at https://goodgirlquiz.co.uk/

Website - https://www.michelleminnikin.com/

Linkedin - https://www.linkedin.com/in/mminnikin/

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/goodgirldeprogramming

TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@michelleminnikin

 

Books & Resources*:

Be More Pirate by Sam Conniff Allende

Playing Big by Tara Mohr

 

Speaking Resources:

Grab Your From Blank Page to Stage Guide and Nail the Topic for a Client Winning Talk

Want to get better at finding and sharing your stories then check out our FREE Five Day Snackable Story Challenge

 

Thanks for listening!

 

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