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Oct 2024
23m 8s

How To Master Your Emotions in 90 Second...

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About this episode

How do you usually react when you're angry?

Have you ever regretted saying something in the heat of the moment?

Today, Jay talks about the transformative power of the "90-Second Rule," a life-changing technique that can help you choose your response in moments of intense emotion. Have you ever acted in the heat of the moment and later regretted it? Jay explores how 90 seconds can be the difference between reacting impulsively and responding with intention.

Inspired by Viktor Frankl's quote, "Between stimulus and response, there is a space," Jay unpacks the concept that this small window of time holds the key to our growth, freedom, and ability to create better outcomes in our lives. He shares personal stories, practical tips, and scientific insights to help you harness the power of this technique, including deep breathing exercises, mindfulness practices, and ways to recognize and label your emotions.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to control your emotions in stressful moments

How to apply the 90-second rule to avoid impulsive reactions

How to recognize and label your emotions accurately

How to practice mindfulness in moments of frustration

How to take a 90-second break to reset your mindset

By allowing yourself those 90 seconds to breathe, reflect, and choose your response, you create the space to align with your values and intentions.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

02:17 It’s About How You Respond to Situations

06:27 The 90-Second Rule

11:55 #1: Set a Timer

13:05 #2: Do an Internal Weather Report

13:47 #3: Check-in with Your Body

18:01 Sadness Last Longer than Other Emotions

20:53 We Repeat What We Reward 

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