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Sep 2024
1h 3m

How to Stop Pleasing and Start Living

Glennon Doyle and Audacy
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349. How to Stop Pleasing and Start Living


Amanda and Glennon answer your questions about friendship, mental health, people pleasing and the difference between boundaries and control. 


Discover: 

-Why if you’re a person who “goes with the flow” you might want to reconsider;

-What to do when you feel the loss of a friend getting into a new relationship;

-The truth about married men who refuse to socialize with women who are not their wife; and 

-The healing power of getting a mental health diagnosis later in life.

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