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Sep 2024
24m 44s

Your Social Anxiety Identity

Dr. Aziz: Social Anxiety And Confidence Expert, Author and Coach
About this episode

Are you stuck in a cycle of social anxiety, feeling like it's just part of who you are? In today's episode of Shrink for the Shy Guy, we dive deep into the concept of your "social anxiety identity." How much of your identity is wrapped up in social anxiety? Dr. Aziz breaks down how this hidden identity can control your interactions, limit your relationships, and ultimately hold you back in life.

Through real-life examples and actionable steps, you'll learn how to uncover the stories you've been telling yourself and begin to rewrite your identity into one of confidence and ease. Social anxiety doesn’t have to define you or your future.

Also, Dr. Aziz shares details about his upcoming virtual event, End Social Anxiety Now (November 1-3), where you can dive deeper into breaking free from the grip of social anxiety and set yourself up for a radically different 2025. Don’t miss out on early bird pricing! Listen in, and get ready to challenge your identity and take action toward lasting change.

 

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Do you feel like social anxiety defines who you are? It’s easy to believe that social discomfort is just a part of your personality, but what if that’s not true? What if you’ve unknowingly wrapped your identity around social anxiety, limiting yourself in ways you don’t even realize?

In this podcast, we’ll explore how social anxiety can become part of your identity, why it holds you back, and most importantly, how to break free from it.

Does Social Anxiety Define You?

You might not think about it, but the way you see yourself—your identity—determines much of your behavior. If you have social anxiety, part of your identity might be tied to beliefs like "I’m awkward," or "People don’t want to connect with me." These beliefs are part of what I call a social anxiety identity, and they limit your ability to confidently interact with others.

"The more your identity is one of social anxiety, the more it’s going to affect you and limit your life."

By holding onto this identity, you might avoid social interactions, feel more self-conscious in conversations, and ultimately reinforce the very fear that holds you back.

How Social Anxiety Becomes an Identity

At the root of social anxiety is often a deep belief that something is inherently wrong with you. Maybe you think, “I’m awkward,” or “I’m not good at small talk.” These beliefs fuel the idea that you are more rejectable than others, making social situations feel risky and dangerous.

This identity becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. When you believe you’re socially awkward, you tend to avoid interactions. And when you avoid interactions, you miss the chance to practice and improve, which reinforces the belief that you’re not good at socializing.

"Your identity is the lens through which you see yourself, and ultimately, how you see the world."

Breaking Free from the Social Anxiety Identity

The good news? This identity is not fixed. You can break free from it with conscious effort and action. Here’s how:

  1. Identify Your Limiting Beliefs
    Write down three key beliefs that define your social anxiety. For example, “I’m not interesting,” or “People don’t want to talk to me.” These are the stories you’ve been telling yourself, often unconsciously.
  2. Create New Identity Statements
    Challenge those limiting beliefs by creating new identity statements that counter them. If you’ve been telling yourself “I’m boring,” create a new belief like “I’m a fascinating person.” At first, this might feel strange or even untrue, but that’s okay—changing your identity starts with challenging your old one.
  3. Take Action to Reinforce Your New Identity
    Once you’ve identified your new beliefs, put them into action. Start small: say hello to someone in a social setting or ask a question in a group meeting. These small steps will help you practice your new identity and build confidence over time.

The Path to Social Freedom

Your social anxiety doesn’t have to define you. With the right mindset and actions, you can start to shift your identity and break free from the limitations of fear and self-doubt. Remember, the more you challenge your old identity, the more space you create for a confident, free version of yourself.

"This pattern can change faster than you think."

As you begin this journey, keep reminding yourself that social anxiety is not who you are—it’s just a pattern. And like any pattern, it can be changed. You deserve to live a life filled with connection, confidence, and authenticity.

Ready to make the shift? You’ve got this.

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