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Sep 2024
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407: My Top 5 Style Mistakes (and What T...

TONYA LEIGH
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Dressing for You: How to Break Free from Style Myths and Embrace Authenticity

Many individuals find themselves standing in front of a closet full of clothes, yet feeling as though they have nothing to wear. This common frustration often arises from a mindset that prioritizes an ideal body weight or shape over the current self. The belief that one must wait until they achieve a certain physical state before investing in their style is not only limiting but also counterproductive.

Tonya Leigh discusses her own experience with what she describbes as the "waiting game." She recalls how she spent years convincing herself that she would invest in her style once she lost a certain amount of weight or reached a specific body shape. This mindset creates a cycle of negativity, where individuals continuously reinforce a narrative rooted in self-doubt and dissatisfaction.  As she explores her past and the lessons learned, Tonya encourages listeners to consider their own style choices and what they may have outgrown. 

Join her for an inspiring discussion on embracing your unique style and stepping into your authentic self.

 

Talking Points:

00:00:37 - Tonya's Morning Motivation and Style Journey

00:01:43 - The Deep Connection Between Style and Self-Image

00:02:59 - The Style Experience: A Unique Approach

00:04:05 - Enrollment for The Style Experience

00:05:08 - Style Mistake #1: The Waiting Game

00:09:23 - Style Mistake #2: The Numbers Game

00:13:25 - Style Mistake #3: The Label Trap

00:18:25 - Style Mistake #4: Trapped by a Self-Image

00:22:40 - Style Mistake #5: The Knowledge Gap

00:28:18 - Conclusion: Embrace Your Style Journey

Quotes:

"Style may seem superficial on the surface, but in reality, it's so deep."

"Everything you choose is confirming a story about yourself."

"Waiting for the perfect body is like waiting for a train that never arrives."

"The moment you stand up and you say, I'm no longer waiting to feel beautiful, to live the life that I want to live, that's when you get all of your power back."

"Your style isn't defined by the quantity of your clothes, but how well they reflect and serve you."

"Style is a skill. Like any skill, it can be learned, practiced, and improved upon."

"True style is about being comfortable in your own skin and your life, not in someone else's expectations."

 

Useful  Resources:

Join the 5 Day Style Challenge: https://schoolofselfimage.com/stylechallenge/ 

Join the Membership: https://schoolofselfimage.com/join

FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/

Sign up for the Weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit

 

Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh:

Instagram: @schoolofselfimage

Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh  

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

 

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