logo
episode-header-image
Sep 2024
44m 7s

Life as a Trans Woman and an AFL Footbal...

BRITTANY HOCKLEY AND LAURA BYRNE
About this episode

Before being known as Danielle Laidley, she was a hugely successful AFL player and played 151 games for West Coast Eagles and North Melbourne football clubs, and winning premierships  and going onto be the youngest senior coach ever at 36, coaching North Melbourne for 149 games across seven seasons from 2003 to 2009.

For decades, Danielle kept her gender to herself and threw herself into sporting success and became a workaholic. Eventually the pain of keeping this secret led to some dark coping mechanisms like substance abuse. 

In May, 2020, a police officer took a photo of Danielle in an interview room at a St Kilda police station while wearing a wig and make-up. This photo was shared in a group chat before it was leaked to the media & the public. 

Now, following her diagnosis with gender dysphoria, Danielle works extensively as an advocate for transgender people, raising awareness in a quest for acceptance of diversity.

In this chat we speak about:

  • The different phases of Danielle's life & always knowing who she is
  • Growing up in the hyper masculine environments of football and cricket
  • How she coped with the public exposure of her transition before she had been able to speak with her family and friends about it
  • How the football world has responded to Danielle's transition
  • How parents can help support their kids who experience gender dysphoria
  • Her beautiful relationship with a woman she's known since grade 1
  • Danielle's perspective on transpeople in sport

You can find Danielle's Instagram and book - Don't look away

You can watch us on Youtube

Find us on Instagram

Join us on tiktok

Or join the Facebook Discussion Group

Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Up next
Today
Could You Be A Revenge Addict Without Even Knowing It? Uncut with James Kimmel
Why do we want to hurt the people that hurt us?Over the years we have spoken about so many different aspects of relationships but today’s topic is one we have never fully unpacked before and it’s one of the most destructive forces in relationships: revenge. We don’t always call i ... Show More
54m 44s
Oct 7
Are Age Gaps Class Coded or Creepy? ChemRIZZtry, Curveball Crushing & Casting
Hey lifers!Poppy has popped out! She’s just the cutest! Next week we will have an episode with Laura about Poppy’s birth. Britt is always *rooting for long distance relationships. She’s been over to see Ben in Italy and been reminded that she found herself a bit of a chefing unic ... Show More
1 h
Oct 5
Ask Uncut - Ex-Husband’s Emails… And She’s STILL Reading Them 👀
Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your deep and burning questions! Britt has been in Italy and Laura has had a baby! If you found out the gender of your baby when you were pregnant, was it correct? Google AI says it’s wrong in Australia about 5% of the time. We’d love to ... Show More
46m 3s
Recommended Episodes
Sep 13
Weekend Woman’s Hour: Davina McCall, Papua New Guinea, Jung Chang, Fawning, Sophie Ellis Bextor
Davina McCall, one of TV’s most popular presenters has a new book out, Birthing, co-written with the midwife, Marley Henry. Davina joined Anita Rani to talk about her stellar career so far, including hosting Big Brother for 10 years, campaigning for better menopause care and buil ... Show More
55m 13s
Aug 2024
Southport attack, Simone Biles profile, Author Anne Hawk
The prime minister today will be meeting police leaders to discuss the riots in Southport following the horrific attacks which left three small girls dead - and eight other children and two adults injured, with some believed to be in critical condition. A 17-year-old youth is due ... Show More
57m 36s
Apr 2024
An ARJy Bargy About A Crying Baby
Subscribe to Mamamia It might be Monday... but everyone is still talking about Taylor Swift's new double album The Tortured Poets Department. But is it time for Taylor to stop being petty to those who've crossed her? We can't agree.  Plus, a debate about pepper spray and whether ... Show More
50m 10s
Dec 2019
145: What if your best friend met a tragic fate?
“I’m the kind of person where I like to know answers. I don’t like secrets I don’t like surprises…I really want to know what brought him to that. I really want to know why.” Producer: Whit MissildineEditors: Nigel Coutinho, Whit MissildineEpisode Summary: After his best friend co ... Show More
41m 5s
Jun 2024
“Am I Having Fun? Am I Growing?” (with Mia Fishel)
Tobin Heath and Christen Press return for Episode 2 of Season 3! In this episode they discuss the complex emotions they felt in response to American pro soccer player Korbin Albert’s support of homophobic and transphobic beliefs, the impactful lessons they learned from being memb ... Show More
1h 1m
Mar 2025
MAFS Star Ella Morgan "You Say I'm Crazy, You're With Katie Price Now!" Most Trans People Attempt To Take Their Lives
Married at First Sight star Ella Morgan sits down alongside her dad Chris for an emotional conversation about identity, acceptance and resilience. Ella opens up about knowing she was different as a child, the challenges of transitioning, the heartbreaking moments of self-doubt an ... Show More
1h 49m
Oct 2024
From the Pilbara to Perth and beyond — the Indigenous psychologist doing things differently
Dr Tracy Westerman grew up in the Pilbara, where suicide and mental health issues have deeply scarred Indigenous communities. So this Nyamal woman decided to do something about it.Nyamal woman Tracy Westerman grew up in some of the most remote parts of Western Australia, moving f ... Show More
53 m
Mar 2025
SLP 460: Being Proud Of Yourself with Jade Sharp
‘For me, I lived a sort of downplayed life. I wanted to be a stay-at-home mum, and at the same time, I didn’t share anything with anyone. I would never have done a podcast, I would never have done a speech for International Women’s Day, I would never have done that. I did not wan ... Show More
1h 12m
Jul 2024
Neuroendocrinology (SEX & GENDER) Mega Encore with Daniel Pfau
It’s an updated mega-encore of one of my favorite episodes — with 2024 research — to learn: How many genders are there? How do you know if you’re queer? Is sexual orientation biological, and if so, how? The amazing neuroscientist and endocrinology researcher Dr. Daniel Pfau joins ... Show More
2h 2m
Apr 2025
“The Next Morning I Was Full Of Anxiety” Calum Scott Reveals What REALLY Happened on Britain’s Got Talent & Battle With Body Dysmorphia “I Told Myself ‘You’re Disgusting’”
In this episode of We Need To Talk, Calum Scott opens up like never before. A decade on from his iconic Britain’s Got Talent audition, Calum reflects on the moment that changed everything. He reveals what was really going on behind the scenes, the guilt he still carries about his ... Show More
1h 56m