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Dec 2019
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145: What if your best friend met a trag...

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About this episode

“I’m the kind of person where I like to know answers. I don’t like secrets I don’t like surprises…I really want to know what brought him to that. I really want to know why.”

 

Producer: Whit Missildine

Editors: Nigel Coutinho, Whit Missildine


Episode Summary: After his best friend contracts a rare disease, a man’s friendship deepens as they grow into adulthood together, only to end with a sudden, shocking turn of events.


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Content/Trigger Warnings: mental illness, explicit language


Intro Music: ""Illabye" – Tipper

Music Bed: “Cylinder Four/Cylinder Five” – Chris Zabriskie

Outro Music: "The Moon is Down" - El Diablo & Adam Schraft (Rojo y Negro) @eldiablosf @rojo-y-negro www.eldiablobass.com/

 

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