I share a vulnerable coaching session with my dear friend and life coach Leighann Amanda, where we unpacked my past relationship patterns and core wounds around love, a year and a half after an emotional journey of opening my heart after a difficult breakup and taking a hard look at the ways I've compromised myself in the name of love.
Since then, I've done profound inner work to rewrite my love story.
Leighann supports me to shift some blind spots as we dive even deeper into cultivating self-love, overcoming limiting beliefs, and consciously creating the relationships I desire. There were so many breakthrough moments!
One of the most powerful realizations from part 2 was about reprogramming my attachment style and core emotional needs. For many years, I’d operated from a place of anxious attachment, constantly seeking validation from partners to feel worthy. As I have been flipping the script and coming more from a place of choosing myself first, how I show up in dating and how I’m being met by men has completely shifted!
“As children when we see something we mimic it. If there isn’t unconditional self-love or an abundance of love present that’s what we mimic growing up.”
Leighann Amanda“The only way that a man coming into your life in the format of a relationship can mess with your self-love is if you deem the love from him worth more value than the love you provide yourself.”
Leighann Amanda“Number one priority is cultivating my self-love because one way or another, that is something that no one's ever going to take away.”
Celinne Da Costa“It's okay to not have perfection, as long as you're both committed to your aspirations.”
Leighann Amanda“I was perceiving that his love was gold and mine silver. And because of that, I would trade off my own love for his love because it was better, which was creating codependency patterns.”
Celinne Da CostaMake sure to listen to part 2 in full, where we dive into even deeper levels.
I hope these episodes have resonated with you and illuminated that we all have room for growth when it comes to love - no matter how "healed" we may think we are. This is a lifelong journey of learning to cherish ourselves and show up fully in relationships.
My wish is that sharing my story openly and vulnerably empowers you to look within and courageously rewrite your own love story. You deserve beautiful, balanced, and emotionally sober relationships. But it starts with you.
p.s. Disclaimer: To honor my integration and create space for meaningful shifts to occur, this session was recorded on August 4, 2023 and is being released now.
As a life coach, Leighann specializes in using depth, presence, and curiosity to evoke the unexpected best in others. With a unique focus on relationships, she teaches people how to create thriving, emotionally sober relationships with themselves and others. In addition to using ontological and somatic methods, she brings a specialty in nervous system regulation with breathwork and bodywork to integrate how the nervous system dictates our relational wellness.
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Celinne Da Costa is a Master Coach and brand story expert who works with high-achieving, purpose-driven CEOs, experts, and executives to help them become confident, fully expressed leaders with transformational stories, an influential brand, and a tribe of raving fans.
Celinne has thousands of hours of practitioner training in various modalities, including NeuroLinguistic Programming, Facilitated Breath Repatterning, hypnotherapy, shamanic energy healing, emotional intelligence coaching, and life coaching, which she channels to create powerful breakthroughs for her clients.
Her work has been featured in top media, including Forbes, Entrepreneur, and Business Insider. A bestselling author and a popular speaker, Celinne has also delivered a TEDx speech on the power of human connection. Follow her journey on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter @CelinneDaCosta.