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Aug 2024
25m 52s

#217: The Mistake We Make with Self-Love

Mary Jelkovsky
About this episode

The biggest mistake people make with self-love is explained this episode. We talk about how a scarcity mindset is emblematic of low self-worth and why we must be PROACTIVE when it comes to self-love.

You will learn how to...

  • Identify scarcity thinking in your daily life
  • Understand the societal roots of scarcity mentality
  • Practice proactive self-care to avoid burnout

Remember: Take care of yourself in small ways before you burn out in a big way.

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Links to Mary’s self-love book and journal:

  • The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.

  • 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Mentioned In This Episode...
Ep. 150 with Dr. Anita Johnston: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/marys-cup-of-tea-the-self-love-podcast-for-women/id1495128359?i=1000597710471

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