We all wish we gave fewer f*cks in our lives, but wanting to and doing it are two different things. If you've read my book, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, then you know that not giving a f*ck doesn't mean you don't care about anything—it means deliberately choosing what you give a f*ck about and ignore the rest.
In this episode, we dive into the realit ... Show More
Apr 15
Passion, Solved: Is It Really Worth Pursuing?
Nearly 60% of American workers are checked out at their jobs. Meanwhile, every graduation speech in history tells you to follow your passion and you'll never work a day in your life. So which is it? In this episode, Drew and I debate both sides. I argue for passion. He argues for ... Show More
2h 9m
Apr 8
Solved, Highlights: What Actually Makes People Happy
So here's the thing about happiness: the harder you chase it, the faster it runs. That's not some bumper sticker wisdom. It's basically the core finding of decades of research. In this highlight, Drew and I get into the stuff from our original happiness episode that I think peopl ... Show More
32m 23s
Apr 1
Self-Help, Solved
We pulled over 2,600 studies and ranked 19 of the most common self-improvement techniques across three dimensions: research quality, consistency of results, and actual effect size. Then we sorted them into four tiers: legitimately works, works sometimes, probably not helping, and ... Show More
2h 10m
Jan 2025
S2 EP3 | Let Them Think Bad Thoughts about You | The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins | The Messy Podcast
Welcome to Season 2, Episode 3 of The Messy Podcast!
In this episode, we explore The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins and how it can help you break free from the fear of judgment and stop letting others' opinions dictate your life. Learn how to embrace the concept of "Let Them, ... Show More
15m 49s
Feb 2025
SLP 453: The Let Them Theory - Self Love Quicky
<p>In this week’s Quicky, we dive into how a world where control and expectation often dictate our emotions, the ‘Let Them’ theory offers a refreshing perspective: just let people be who they are. Coined and popularised by Mel Robbins, this concept revolves around the idea that i ... Show More
9m 46s
Nov 2024
561: How to Love ALL People (Especially Those You Disagree With)
<p>Last week, I shared a quote from Mark Groves on <a href= "https://www.instagram.com/p/DCIYAOnNs7x/" target="_blank" rel= "noopener">Instagram</a> about reconciling our differences, especially in the context of voting and politics. Unsurprisingly, the responses varied—some reso ... Show More
32m 53s
Sep 2025
155. The Definitive Guide to Finding Your Purpose
What’s worse than failure? Living a life with no purpose.Most people don’t realize they’re drifting through life…working jobs they hate, numbing out with distractions, convincing themselves that “this is just how it is.” That’s why 75% of Americans say they feel lost, anxious, an ... Show More
30m 22s
Jul 2024
#609: Being Different and Not Caring What People Think
If you've ever struggled with a deep desire to fit in, and yet at the same time you know that you also want to stand out, this is a podcast episode that you're going to love. As humans we're wired to be in community and to be connected with one another, and yet, we are each indiv ... Show More
29m 45s