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Aug 2024
39m 20s

The Truth About Resilience with Bipolar ...

Gabe Howard & Dr. Nicole Washington
About this episode

In this episode, Gabe and Dr. Nicole discuss the misconception that resilience is an inherent trait for those with bipolar disorder, highlighting the hard work and external support necessary for true recovery. Gabe shares personal experiences of frustration with the superficial praise of resilience, stressing the importance of addressing the trauma and journey of living with a serious mental illness.

Tune in to learn what resilience is (and is not), the need for genuine support, and the impact of toxic positivity on mental health. This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to understand the nuanced challenges faced by those with bipolar disorder and how lasting resilience is built.

"Being able to weather that storm doesn't mean that the rain isn't hitting you. It doesn't mean that the wind is not blowing off your shutters. It doesn't mean that you're coming through it 100% intact. You are being battered, and it just means that when the storm is over, you're soaking wet. You're exhausted, your house is trashed, the shutters are everywhere, but you're still standing, and now you're going to turn around and say, okay, I need help putting those shutters back. I need some dry clothes. That's what resiliency is. But I think the vast majority of people believe that resiliency is that the storm never comes, and nothing could be more false than that statement." ~Gabe Howard


To learn more -- or read the transcript -- visit the official episode page.


Our Host, Gabe Howard, is an award-winning writer and speaker who lives with bipolar disorder. He is the author of the popular book, "Mental Illness is an Asshole and other Observations," available from Amazon; signed copies are also available directly from the author.

To learn more about Gabe, or book him for your next event, please visit his website, gabehoward.com. You can also follow him on Instagram and TikTok at @askabipolar.


Our host, Dr. Nicole Washington, is a native of Baton Rouge, Louisiana, where she attended Southern University and A&M College. After receiving her BS degree, she moved to Tulsa, Oklahoma to enroll in the Oklahoma State University College of Osteopathic Medicine. She completed a residency in psychiatry at the University of Oklahoma in Tulsa. Since completing her residency training, Washington has spent most of her career caring for and being an advocate for those who are not typically consumers of mental health services, namely underserved communities, those with severe mental health conditions, and high performing professionals. Through her private practice, podcast, speaking, and writing, she seeks to provide education to decrease the stigma associated with psychiatric conditions. Find out more at DrNicolePsych.com.

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