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Jul 2024

36m 20s

216. The psychology of resentment

About this episode

Resentment is sometimes labelled as an ugly or bad emotion, something that is derived from a sense of entitlement. In actuality, resentment is a really useful emotion, it serves as an emotional alarm, it teaches us what we value, and it can help us understand our own expectations and sense of self worth even more. Despite that, when we don't manage our resentment well it can also come to harm our relationships or cause us to be too rash. In today's episode, we break down the psychology of resentment, including:

Why we experience resentment
What you resentment may be telling you
Our 3 ways to respond to resentment
How to release resentment and move through it

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