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Jul 2024
6m 16s

Evy Poumpouras' Counterintuitive Advice:...

Lewis Howes
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"There's something powerful with keeping some things about you to you. You don't have to be an open book. I know this goes against a lot of "be vulnerable, be vulnerable". I'm not telling you to be a jerk, and I'm not telling you to conceal everything about you. But what I'm telling you is you need to have a filter. People don't need to know everything about you. Keep that stuff to yourself." - Evy Poumpouras

In this thought-provoking episode, former Secret Service agent Evy Poumpouras challenges the popular notion of radical vulnerability in relationships and social interactions. Drawing from her extensive experience in high-stakes situations, Poumpouras argues for a more nuanced approach to openness, emphasizing the importance of maintaining personal boundaries and discretion.

Poumpouras delves into the complexities of human relationships, explaining how excessive comfort can sometimes lead to unwarranted challenges and pushback. She offers practical advice on balancing empathy and personal disclosure, particularly in professional settings. Through vivid examples, Poumpouras illustrates the difference between genuine understanding and performative empathy, encouraging listeners to be authentic in their interactions without oversharing. Her insights provide a fresh perspective on interpersonal dynamics, offering valuable strategies for navigating social and professional relationships with both empathy and self-protection.

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