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Jul 2024
58m 48s

Forget About the Dating "Icks" (w/ Boman...

Headgum & Nicole Byer
About this episode

Actor/TikToker Boman Martinez-Reid (@Bomanizer) joins Nicole to discuss the pitfalls of launching your relationship on social media, witnessing his ex compete on a TV dating show and become a fan favorite, and his advice on why we should all forget about the "icks" when dating. Meanwhile, Nicole has started bargaining with her house spiders.

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