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Jul 2024
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What To Do With Our Highly Sexualized Cu...

Samantha & Spencer Robbins
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To find freedom, heal, and feel powerful in your emotions, check out the Alive & Free Collective by CLICKING HERE. To become a life coach and get started in your career helping people get free and healthy emotionally and start a business doing so, go to our training video to learn more. Have you ever wondered if saving sex for marriage is worth the wait? This episode confronts the normalization of premarital sex and contrasts it with the values of purity and intimacy within marriage, particularly among 20-somethings and 30-somethings. Through interviews and societal debates, we explore the idea of "test driving" a relationship before committing and examine the emotional and spiritual impact of these choices. Hear personal stories that underscore the importance of valuing oneself and one's partner by embracing purity and unshared intimacy.

Maintaining purity in today's world is no small feat. Through a heartfelt anecdote about a friend's well-meaning offer to teach about sex, we navigate the pressures and challenges of upholding personal values.

 

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(0:00:20) - Sex Before Marriage (0:13:21) - Navigating Boundaries and Purity in Relationships (0:22:44) - Understanding Shame, Forgiveness, and Attachment (0:30:26) - Boundaries and Sexuality in Relationships (0:39:00) - Releasing Shame and Finding Forgiveness (0:45:18) - Building Character Through Boundaries (0:58:35) - Embracing Holiness in Marriage

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(0:00:20) - Sex Before Marriage Examining the normalization of premarital sex, valuing purity and intimacy in marriage, and the importance of saving oneself for a future partner.

(0:13:21) - Navigating Boundaries and Purity in Relationships Personal values and boundaries surrounding premarital sex, societal pressures, and emotional impact of not honoring one's values.

(0:22:44) - Understanding Shame, Forgiveness, and Attachment Understanding unconditional love and forgiveness, valuing sexual purity, and the impact of spiritual connections on emotional well-being.

(0:30:26) - Boundaries and Sexuality in Relationships Love, boundaries, and heart change are crucial for fulfilling relationships, while casual sex undermines trust and intimacy.

(0:39:00) - Releasing Shame and Finding Forgiveness Intimacy's impact on relationships, getting to know someone beyond physical intimacy, risks of unintended pregnancies and STDs, and God's forgiveness and renewal.

(0:45:18) - Building Character Through Boundaries Childhood trauma, unhealthy validation-seeking, self-control, integrity, building strong relationships, boundaries around sexuality, accountability to true identity in Christ.

(0:58:35) - Embracing Holiness in Marriage Marriage and faith bring joy, intimacy, and freedom, leading to transformation and forgiveness, as seen in a former OnlyFans top earner's story.

 

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