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Ever feel like saying no makes you a bad person? Or that being loving means being endlessly available? Well, you’re not alone. But when you look at how Jesus actually lived, you see something surprising - He didn’t say yes to everyone, and He wasn’t afraid to set limits. If you’ve been wrestling with guilt over protecting your time or energy, today’s episode is going to be a game-changer. Let’s talk about what real, Christlike boundaries look like and why they’re not just okay, they’re necessary.

Rooting for you,
Jessica

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