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Have you ever wrestled with the question, “If God is good, then why did this painful thing happen to me?” When we’re deep in hurt, the idea of a loving God can feel impossible to reconcile with our suffering. It’s not about struggling with prayer or faith itself—it’s about wrestling with who God is in the midst of pain.

In this episode, I'm opening up this conversation, not to offer quick-fix answers, but to create space for the real questions so many of us carry. We’ll explore what it means to hold both realities—a broken world and a loving God—without dismissing the weight of our experiences. Healing doesn’t come from clichés or easy answers, but from being heard, understood, and reminded of who God truly is.

Rooting for you,
Jessica

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The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.
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