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Jul 2024
32m 31s

EP 460: Healing an Unhealthy Relationshi...

CHRISTINE HASSLER
About this episode

In this heartfelt episode, Christine Hassler works with Pamela, who is struggling to overcome an unhealthy relationship with food stemming from unresolved childhood trauma. Pamela seeks guidance to heal herself for her well-being and to prevent passing these issues on to her daughter. Christine provides compassionate and insightful coaching, helping Pamela make significant connections and encouraging her to seek ongoing support for her healing journey.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you have an unhealthy relationship with food or another aspect of your life?
  • Are there unresolved childhood traumas affecting your current behaviors?
  • Have you noticed that your children are modeling unhealthy behaviors that concern you?
  • Are you seeking a solution for a long-standing issue but feel stuck?

Guest Insights:

  • Pamela connects her unhealthy relationship with food to childhood sexual abuse by her stepfather.
  • She realizes that her behaviors are affecting her daughter, who believes confident food choices equate to receiving love.
  • After disclosing her trauma to a friend, Pamela noticed a temporary improvement in her relationship with food.
  • Christine guides Pamela in acknowledging her inner child's pain and understanding the roots of her trauma.

A-Ha Moments:

  • Pamela understands that her obsession with food is a coping mechanism for her unresolved trauma.
  • By addressing her inner child's need for validation and safety, Pamela experiences relief.
  • Christine emphasizes the importance of ongoing support to heal from deep-seated trauma fully.

How to Get Over It:

  • Seek therapy or coaching to address unresolved childhood traumas.
  • Validate your inner child's experiences and emotions.
  • Commit to a healing journey, recognizing that aha moments are just the beginning.
  • Engage in inner child work and somatic practices to release trauma from the body.

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Join us next week for another insightful episode where we help you get over it and on with the life you love.

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