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Jul 2024
29m 52s

Is People-Pleasing Holding You Back?

Harvard Business Review
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There's a fine line between pitching in to help your team and taking on too much at the expense of your mental health and performance. Author and coach Hailey Magee walks us through why some of us fall into people-pleasing patterns, the negative impact it can have on our careers, and how to stop. She also offers advice for managers on how to help employees i ... Show More
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