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Jul 2024
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JON BROOKS
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In this episode, we delve into profound concepts and practices to improve our relationships and our inner world by drawing from the CIT model (Cognitive Interpersonal Therapy) and incorporating the timeless wisdom of Stoic philosophy.

Quotes Featured:

  • "It's not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters." - Epictetus
  • "You have power over your mind—not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength." - Marcus Aurelius
  • "He who is brave is free." - Seneca
  • "If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment." - Marcus Aurelius
  • "We suffer more often in imagination than in reality." - Epictetus
  • "When you arise in the morning think of what a privilege it is to be alive, to think, to enjoy, to love." - Marcus Aurelius
  • "True happiness is to enjoy the present, without anxious dependence upon the future." - Seneca
  • "Make the best use of what is in your power, and take the rest as it happens." - Epictetus
  • "The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts." - Marcus Aurelius

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