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Jun 2024
43m 38s

Healing From Sexual Trauma With Kindness...

MONIQUE KOVEN
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This is the final episode of the *faith edition* of the Healing Trauma Podcast. We do plan to be back with a new season of The Healing Trauma Podcast. For those of you who support the HTP podcast, content will continue to be shared through your Spotify subscription feed. You are also invited to join me in an upcoming Zoom call so I can have the chance to meet you. The details and zoom link will be found in the in the next podcast episode. I look forward to meeting you! In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, guest host & trauma therapist Dr. Mark McNear interviews trauma therapist and author Sam Jolen. They discuss the importance of addressing sexual trauma and the challenges survivors face in opening up about their experiences. Sam shares his own journey of healing and how therapy helped him connect with his story. They also explore the concept of trauma and the role of play in the healing process. Sam emphasizes the importance of kindness and self-compassion in the journey of healing from trauma.TakeawaysSexual trauma survivors often hold their trauma as shame and may struggle to open up about their experiences.Therapy can provide a safe space for survivors to connect with their stories and begin the healing process.Trauma is a wound that overwhelms with negative felt experience and lacks a source of love or comfort.Play can be a healing tool that allows survivors to reconnect with joy and pleasure. Kindness and self-compassion are essential in the journey of healing from trauma.


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