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Jun 2024
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When You Feel Like You Don't Fit In with...

Debra Fileta, M.A., LPC and Creator of TrueLoveDates.com
About this episode

What do you do when you feel like you don’t fit in?

What do you do when you don’t even feel like you belong in your own family?

How can you take that feeling that you don’t belong, and turn it into something good… Something healthy… Something purposeful and meaningful?

This is exactly the subject we dive into today in this on-air counseling session with Brian Tome. He felt out of place in his own life— and for good reason.

We talk about some of his hurts from the past, and how they impacted & informed his calling in the present.

Let me just tell you, this man is a character… And it was a joy to chat with him and process some of these things out loud.

Let me know what you think of this conversation!!




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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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