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May 2024
1h 2m

The Laws of Connection | David Robson

THE ART OF CHARM
About this episode

In today’s episode, we dive into the world of human connection with David Robson. David is an award-winning writer specializing in the psychology and neuroscience of human relationships. With a rich background in scientific journalism and a degree in mathematics from the University of Cambridge, David has dedicated his career to exploring the intricate ways we bond and interact with each other. His work has been widely recognized and featured in top-tier publications such as The Guardian, The Atlantic, and BBC Future. David is also the author of The Laws of Connection, a profound exploration into the science behind how we form lasting connections.


In today’s episode, David Robson reveals the secrets to building stronger social connections through the latest psychological research. He explains the profound impact of social ties on our physical health, the importance of overcoming the "liking gap," and how to effectively use follow-up questions to create shared realities. David also shares strategies for rebuilding our social skills post-pandemic, the power of expressing appreciation, and how the Benjamin Franklin effect can strengthen our relationships. 


What to Listen For

  • Introduction – 0:00
  • Who is David Robson, and how can his insights on human connection and psychology transform your personal and professional relationships?
  • How do social connections affect your health, and what diseases can they help protect against?
  • Why is it important to recognize and manage ambivalent relationships effectively?


  • What barriers prevent you from connecting with others – 10:40
  • What is the "liking gap," and how does it prevent you from forming deeper connections?
  • How can you recalibrate your perceptions to overcome these psychological barriers?


  • What questions can you ask to rapidly build deep connections? – 24:24
  • What types of questions are most effective for building deeper connections?
  • How can you move past small talk quickly to create meaningful conversations?
  • What overlooked expression can drastically improve your relationship with anyone at work and in your personal life?


  • How can you rebuild your social skills post-pandemic? – 47:51
  • How has the pandemic affected our social skills, and what strategies can help you rebuild them?
  • Why is practicing daily interactions with strangers crucial for maintaining social confidence?


  • What is the Benjamin Franklin Effect and how can it strengthen relationships? – 51:30
  • What is the Benjamin Franklin effect, and how can asking for small favors strengthen your relationships?
  • How can you apply this effect in your daily life to enhance your social bonds?

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