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May 2024
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Rethinking Success | Mia Birdsong

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Radical advice on rethinking success, individualism, and the American dream.

Mia Birdsong is a pathfinder, culture change visionary, and futurist. She is the founding Executive Director of Next River, a think tank and culture change lab for interconnected freedom. In her book How We Show Up: Reclaiming Family, Friendship, and Community, Mia maps swaths of community life and points us toward the promise of our collective vitality. 

In this episode we talk about:

  • How to build community
  • What it looks like in her own life
  • Mutuality vs reciprocity 
  • How to work with resentment and rejection 
  • The etymological connection between friendship and freedom 
  • The transformative power of asking for help
  • And why she thinks the idea of bootstrapping—or going it alone—is a kind of self-hatred

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