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May 2024
35m 2s

When shame, guilt, and regret keep you f...

PAUL COLAIANNI
About this episode
The guilt and regret from something we did in our past can haunt us for the rest of our lives. Living with guilt decreases happiness and is a constant reminder of who we were. I share how I alleviate guilt when it comes up for me, and I even address a common subject almost all of us face at one time or another (or maybe often).  
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