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Jan 2024
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162. Why do I feel guilty all the time?

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We experience chronic guilt towards a lot of things: guilt for resting, guilt for not resting, guilt for prioritising ourselves, guilt for being a bad friend, a bad partner, a bad student, for not deserving your opportunities. In today's episode we break down the guilt complex by exploring: 

  • The childhood guilt wound
  • People pleasing 
  • The fawn response 
  • Perfectionism 
  • Negative self esteem 

We also discuss how we can overcome our chronic guilt by deciding to live for ourselves and putting energy into our wellbeing first, alongside the paradox of the guilt we feel towards ourselves vs the guilt we inflict on others. Listen now! 

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