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Apr 2024
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303: How to Work With Difficult People w...

MAMIE KANFER STEWART
About this episode

How does it feel to work with somebody you'd rather avoid? Let's admit it: We all experience a fair share of difficult people at work. And many times, we just have to be around them whether we like it or not. However, there are a few things, that we can do to lessen their impact on us. 


Today's workplace expert unpacks everything we need to know about working with difficult people.


Amy Gallo is the author of Getting Along: How to Work with Anyone (Even Difficult People), the HBR Guide to Dealing with Conflict, as well as hundreds of articles for Harvard Business Review. She is also the co-host of HBR’s popular Women at Work podcast, which examines the struggles and successes of women in the workplace.


In this episode, Amy shares the eight types of difficult people we usually encounter at work and how to deal with them effectively. We also talk about the challenges of written communication, checking our own behavior, and so much more. 


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Conversation Topics

  • (00:00) Intro
  • (02:27) 8 kinds of difficult co-workers most people work with
  • (05:45) Personality clash vs. productive conflict 
  • (07:32) How to deal with problematic behavior at work
  • (14:36) The manager’s role in solving work conflict
  • (16:23) Is confronting a colleague with their bad behaviors a good strategy?
  • (20:10) How to appropriately respond to difficult written communications
  • (29:16) A great manager Amy has worked for
  • (31:03) Keep up with Amy
  • (32:32) [Extended Episode Only] The role of biases in judging someone’s behavior
  • (36:11) [Extended Episode Only] How managers should intervene when team members have issues working together


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Book Giveaway:  2 Signed Copies of “Getting Along: How to Work with Anyone (Even Difficult People)”


Amy is giving away 2 copies of her book, Getting Along: How to Work with Anyone (Even Difficult People) to members of Podcast+. In this book, Amy identifies eight familiar types of difficult coworkers and provides strategies tailored to dealing constructively with each one. She also shares principles that will help you turn things around, no matter who you're at odds with. You must enter the drawing by Wednesday, May 1.


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