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Mar 2024
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childhood emotional neglect part 3: divo...

Mollie Adler
About this episode

This third installment of our series on Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN) continues to unravel the intricate web of parenting styles that inadvertently contribute to emotional neglect. Focused on the more nuanced and often overlooked aspects of parenting under the duress of personal challenges, this episode examines:


  1. The Divorced or Grieving Parent: Discusses how the intense sorrow from loss or separation can overshadow a parent's ability to attend to their child's emotional needs. It highlights the complex dynamic where children must navigate their own grief or confusion alongside the emotional unavailability of their grieving or divorced parent, leading to unintentional emotional neglect.
  2. The Addicted Parent: Explores the dual life of addicted parents who oscillate between affection and neglect. This segment delves into the unpredictable nature of addiction, where children are left in a state of constant uncertainty about their parent's emotional availability, thus experiencing a unique form of CEN shaped by the shadow of addiction.
  3. The Depressed Parent: Illuminates the impact of a parent's depression on the family dynamic, particularly on the emotional development of the child. It explains how depression's consuming nature can lead to a parent's emotional withdrawal, forcing children into roles beyond their years and fostering an environment where emotional needs are sidelined.


Through detailed vignettes, this episode paints a vivid picture of the silent struggle children face when growing up with parents who, though possibly well-meaning, are caught in their own battles with grief, addiction, or depression. It aims to foster a deeper understanding of the nuanced ways CEN manifests in these settings and advocates for a compassionate approach to healing and support for families navigating these challenging circumstances. Listeners are invited to explore the depth psychological perspectives on these parenting styles, understanding how a parent's unresolved issues and personal struggles can profoundly affect their approach to parenting and, consequently, their child's emotional well-being.


Recommended resources:

Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect by Jonice Webb, PhD

Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker


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