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Mar 2024
49m 41s

Are You Listening?

Hidden Brain, Shankar Vedantam
About this episode
Have you ever sat across from your spouse, colleague or friend and realized that while they may be hearing what you're saying, they aren't actually listening? Poor listening can lead to arguments, hurt feelings, and fractured relationships. But the good news is that active, thoughtful listening can profoundly benefit both people in the conversation. This wee ... Show More
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