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Jun 2023
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109. 6 Ways to Become a Better Listener

Amber Dalsin
About this episode

After working as a couple’s therapist for the last 10+ years, I know that one of the hardest skills to master in a relationship is listening. And as a person, I too can be guilt of being a poor listener. Maybe I pick up my phone when someone is talking, jump in when someone is talking and tell them a related story about myself before they are done, or try to solve my partner's (or friend’s problem), when they haven’t asked for advice.

This podcast is all about gaining the skills to help you become a better listener. That way you can increase connection with your partner, help them feel seen and heard, and feel more like you are tackling issues as a team.

Here are 6 skills you can practice to become a better listener. 

  1. Demonstrate you’re listening  

    2. Be mindful of your face

3. Accept the speakers perspective as valid   

4. Express support as you listen    

5. Ask open-ended questions   

6. Ask if they want problem-solving or just to share

 

Click here to get the Emotional Validation Cheat Sheet

https://www.emberrelationshippsychology.com/emotional-validation-cheat-sheet

 

This podcast is for informational purposes only.

 

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