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Oct 2023

12m 16s

Listening Before Criticizing

FOCUS ON THE FAMILY

About this episode

Being a good listener doesn't happen by accident. It takes intentionality. Greg Smalley shares with Erin Smalley and John Fuller about how he's learning to get better at listening. Plus, Jim Daly speaks with counselor, Dr. Randy Schroeder, about why it's best to listen well and offer constructive feedback to your spouse. They will also bring up why negative criticism is so dangerous.

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