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Mar 2024
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386 SelfWork: How Not To Say The Wrong T...

MARGARET ROBINSON RUTHERFORD PHD
About this episode

From getting through divorce to illness to death, your life can be turned on a dime in a seeming second. And you need your friends and loved ones to understand that you’re grieving, and need comfort. But that's not always what you get. Sometimes, they say the wrong thing and at the wrong time.

Maybe it’s laughable. Maybe it’s not. But often, either the most self-centered or ignorant or awkward responses will come your way.

That’s what we’re going to talk about today on SelfWork. How NOT to say the wrong at the wrong time. I’ll use an article that one of my own clients told me about – an opinion piece from the LA Times written by Dr. Susan Silk and Barry Goldman a few years back. Their slogan? Comfort in, dump out.

The listener email is from a SelfWork listener about her identification as a HSP – a highly sensitive person - and both the relief and confusion that brings her.

Vital Links: 

Dr. Silk's article in the LA Times

A description of ring theory in Wikipedia

A wonderful article about HSP or highly sensitive people.

The article where I was quoted about grandparenting

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