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May 2023
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Raising Lions with Joe Newman

Albiona Rakipi
About this episode

This was such a special episode for me to interview Joe Newman, author of Raising Lions. Joe tells us his story of growing up with ADHD and how he came to write his book. We discuss the importance of understanding connection and power. Joe discusses why boundaries are so important and how our past childhood experiences affect how we parent. We go over so much more in this jam-packed episode. This is not one you want to miss. I know there is so much you will take away from this episode.  

What we go over with Joe Newman on Raising Lions:

  • Joe’s story about how he wrote his book Raising Lions and the work he does.
  • Why it is so important to understand connection and power with your child.
  • Why eggshell parenting isn’t helping with behavior - when the parent backs away from challenges and does anything not to have a tantrum.
  • The reason why strong-willed children need stronger boundaries.
  • Why you need to take parts of old school and new school parenting to actually make it work.
  • How giving too many choices is not helpful.
  • Why doing less is more helpful.
  • How Joe reframed timeouts to breaks.
  • Breaks - what they really are and how and when to use them.
  • Why no doesn’t mean no when you don’t set boundaries.
  • How to get kids to take breaks when they aren’t listening.
  • It takes time to undo children’s behaviors. It can sometimes take multiple experiences.
  • It’s always us, as parents, it’s so critical to understand the dynamic of how you are dealing with your child.
  • We are still at the beginning of understanding children. This requires stepping out of old paradigms and looking for what works for you and your child.
  • Ask yourself, is what you are currently doing working? And if not, what can you do to shift the lens on what you are doing?
  • Why ADHD children usually have sleep struggles.
  • Kids need different things, some need approval, and others need power.
  • Your child is not always seeking attention from you.
  • Look at your behavior and past experiences as a parent. This affects your child.
  • Children don’t learn cognitively first. They learn from experiences.

Learn more about Joe Newman - Raising Lions https://www.raisinglions.com/

Youtube Channel - https://www.youtube.com/@raising_lions

Bio - Joe Newman likes kids with attitude because he was one. In 1970 he was diagnosed with ADHD & medicated.  His book, Raising Lions, is the culmination of a 30-year journey working with the most difficult kids and a desire to bring a new, more effective perspective to our educational institutions and families.  He teaches parents and teachers simple, practical methods to understand and motivate all our children.  In 2018 UCSB conducted a year-long study on how his method improved student behavior, motivation, and engagement in Pre-K through 6th-grade classrooms.  He’s been a guest on Radio Andy (Andy Cohen), goop podcast, The Tools with Barry Michels, and many other podcasts.  He’s spoken to audiences across the U.S., in Canada, Europe, Hong Kong, Bahrain, and Saudi Arabia. In 2020, Raising Lions reached number one in its category on Amazon. 

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