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Mar 2024
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childhood emotional neglect part 2: narc...

Mollie Adler
About this episode

This marks the second installment of our multi-episode discussion on of the impact of Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN), where we delve into the elusive and powerful impact of what didn’t happen in childhood. Often overshadowed by more visible and overt forms of neglect or abuse, CEN is the absence of emotional support and validation during our formative years, and its effects can deeply influence our adult lives. Despite its invisible and covert nature, CEN leaves those it impacts with feelings of disconnection and unfulfillment, often questioning the meaning of life itself – without knowing why.


This second part of our exploration into CEN delves into the various parenting styles that unwittingly contribute to this form of neglect. The episode discusses three predominant parenting archetypes:


  1. The Narcissistic Parent: With case studies illustrating how the excessive self-focus and need for admiration of these parents can lead to an environment where children's emotional needs and feelings are consistently overlooked or dismissed.
  2. The Authoritarian Parent: Explored through Dr. Diana Baumrind’s lens, this section outlines the strict, rigid expectations set by such parents and the resulting lack of emotional responsiveness, which can hinder a child's ability to develop healthy self-esteem and autonomy.
  3. The Permissive Parent: Counterbalancing the authoritarian, this style's leniency and lack of boundaries are examined, showing how such an approach may result in children lacking self-discipline and emotional regulation skills.


The episode highlights the subtle ways that each parenting style can lead to CEN and provides insight into the delicate balance required to foster a nurturing environment that attends to children's emotional needs. Listeners will gain a deeper understanding of the depth psychological perspectives on these parenting styles and the complex interplay between a parent’s unresolved issues and their parenting approach.


Recommended resources:

Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect by Jonice Webb, PhD

Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker


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