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Mar 2024
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177. Understanding our fear of intimacy

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Love is scary. There are so many opportunities to be hurt, to be let down, to have thing turn out in a way we never wanted them to. But it's also one of the best things in live and brings incredible joy and fulfilment. Why is it that some of us avoid the experience all together. In today's episode we are going to discuss the fear of intimacy in all its forms. We will discuss: 

  • Signs you have a fear of intimacy (serial dating, situationships, emotional avoidance)
  • Childhood and early relationship wounds
  • The fear of engulfment and overbearing parents 
  • How insecurity drives protectiveness 
  • Our misconceptions about love 
  • 4 steps to healing your fear of intimacy

We also discuss some of the ways people in their 20s might not realise they have a fear of intimacy and why our society sometimes celebrates the things that keep us in a state of avoidance. All of that and more, listen now! 

 

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