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Mar 2024

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How To Grow A Backbone & Start Standing ...

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Do you find it hard to say no? Would you consider yourself a people pleaser? Does confrontation stress you out? We’ve all been there. Having a firm commitment to your values and sticking up for yourself is a learned skill. In this episode, Lily chats with her little sister, Lexie, about why having a backbone is important and how to strengthen yours. The gals discuss how set and uphold your boundaries and values in your interpersonal relationships, in your friendships, and at work or school as a twenty-something.

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