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Feb 2024
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88: Overcoming sex anxiety with Shayna H...

NATALIE KENNEDY
About this episode

If you've ever experienced dread around making love due to the "ick," pain, anxiety, shame, or being too tired, this episode is for you! I'm excited to introduce a dear friend and mentor of mine, who is also a trained Tao Tantric Priestess, Integrative Nutrition Coach, and Yoga Teacher. Her name is Shayna Hiller. In this episode, we will discuss the causes of dread around sex, as well as what you can do to start looking forward to sex especially if it's gotten stale in the bedroom. You're not alone; No, you're not broken, and no, you're not necessarily with the wrong partner if you're not feeling turned on by their mere presence!

 

Register for the Sex Anxiety Clinic: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/sexanxietyclinic

 

To apply for Shayna's retreat and/or training: www.embodiedwisdomretreat.com or Shayna's website www.shaynahiller.com

 

Next ALC Patreon community call: Saturday, March 2nd at 9am PST/12pm EST: www.patreon.com/anxiouslovecoach.com

 

Who we are:

Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach

Shayna Hiller @Shaynahiller

 

Time Stamps:

6:52 Shayna's long-term celibacy in her twenties

12:43  Clearing sexual trauma through the tantric arts

19:51  Inspiring your partner to be their best selves

26:34  Deciding that you don't like sex, when the reality is that you dislike the sex you are having

30:21  How stress leads to anxiety in the bedroom

37:10  Normalizing the ebbs and flows in your relationship and your sex life

38:30  Scheduling sex

46:15  What to do when you dread having sex with your healthy, loving partner

1:05:00 Sex Anxiety Masterclass on March 14th 2pm PST

1:11:12 You are wired for pleasure

1:14:43 Shayna's Embodied Wisdom Retreat

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