logo
episode-header-image
Feb 2024
14m 42s

#470 Pain Is Inevitable, But Suffering I...

DR. ROBERT PUFF, PH.D.
About this episode

Pain is inevitable because it's a natural part of being human. We experience challenges, losses, and setbacks, leading to unavoidable emotional and sometimes physical pain.

Suffering, however, is not just the pain itself. It's the mental and emotional anguish we create around the pain. This includes negative thoughts, dwelling on the past, resisting the reality of the situation, and clinging to what we've lost. Suffering amplifies the pain and makes it much worse.

The key idea here is that we have some control over the suffering aspect, even though we can't escape the pain entirely. Here are some ways to make suffering optional:

  • Acceptance: Recognizing that pain is a natural part of life and accepting it can significantly reduce suffering. Fighting reality only creates more turmoil.
  • Mindfulness: Focusing on the present moment and observing our thoughts and emotions without judgment can help us detach from negative narratives and rumination.
  • Resilience: Building inner strength and coping mechanisms allows us to navigate challenges and bounce back from setbacks with less emotional upheaval.
  • Perspective: Seeking a broader perspective on our problems and understanding they often don't define us can alleviate the feeling of being overwhelmed by suffering.
  • Self-compassion: Treating ourselves with kindness and understanding during difficult times can significantly reduce negative self-talk and self-blame, alleviating emotional suffering.

It's important to remember that this doesn't mean ignoring pain or pretending it doesn't exist. It simply means acknowledging it while choosing not to let it define our experience and control our emotions.

New Happiness Podcast episode with Dr. Robert Puff, Newport Beach Psychologist

🎧 Listen to all Episodes of the Happiness Podcast NOW! https://www.HappinessPodcast.org

💛 Do you ever wonder what it takes to lead a peaceful, happy life? Are you curious about the specific steps involved in a self-actualized, limitless life? Are you struggling with anxiety or depression? Or are you just plain tired and want some help?

➡️ I explore all these concerns and more every week on the Happiness Podcast, which has been downloaded over 17 million times since its inception. Happiness does not happen by chance, it happens when we take specific actions in our lives to create it

💯 Welcome to my channel! My name is Dr. Robert Puff, Ph.D. I am an author of 13 books, I am a TV show host, Psychology Today blogger, and corporate trainer. I have been studying the actions it takes to reach the highest levels of human achievement for decades, and I would love to share what I've learned with you! My Happiness Podcast is entirely free to listen to, so why not give it a try!

➡️ So, come and explore the Happiness Podcast, my books, and Psychology Today blog, the specific steps to take so that you can soar in your life!

*************

✅ Follow Dr. Robert Puff and the Happiness Podcast on social media:

Instagram ▶️ https://www.instagram.com/robertpuffjr/

LinkedIn ▶️ https://www.linkedin.com/in/doctorpuff

Twitter ▶️ https://twitter.com/HappinesPodcast

Facebook ▶️ https://www.facebook.com/HappinessPodcast/

📧 Email Dr. Robert Puff: DrRobertPuff@icloud.com

📞 Contact Dr. Robert Puff: 1-714-337-4889

📲 WhatsApp Dr. Robert Puff: 1-714-337-4889

✅ Dr. Puff, Clinical Psychologist: https://www.DoctorPuff.com

� Music: By Kevin MacLeod

#painisinevitablebutsufferingisoptional

 

Up next
Jul 4
#542 The Comparison Trap: Why looking at their life is ruining yours
The Comparison Trap: Why looking at their life is ruining yours Welcome to The Comparison Trap. In a world filled with curated highlight reels, it's easy to measure your life against someone else's—but we rarely see the full story behind the success. This podcast is about breakin ... Show More
13m 26s
Jun 27
#541 Living the Musical Life: Why We Don't Skip to the End
Living the Musical Life: Why We Don't Skip to the End Do you ever feel like you're just trying to get to the end of the song, waiting for the next big thing in your life to finally begin? This is the podcast where we learn to appreciate the entire composition, finding joy and har ... Show More
12m 41s
Jun 20
#540 Intentional Living, Lasting Happiness
Intentional Living, Lasting Happiness "Have you ever had one of those days, or maybe even one of those weeks, where you feel like you're just... on autopilot? The alarm goes off, you grab your coffee, you go through the motions of work, you handle your responsibilities, and befor ... Show More
13m 59s
Recommended Episodes
Aug 2024
Being with Painful Feelings (Episode #73)
Welcome to episode 73 of The Way Out Is In: The Zen Art of Living, a podcast series mirroring Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh’s deep teachings of Buddhist philosophy: a simple yet profound methodology for dealing with our suffering, and for creating more happiness and joy in our lives ... Show More
1h 27m
Jan 2025
429: Coping with the Cruel World & Enduring Heartbreak
In this solo Q&A episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, I answer two deeply personal and important listener questions. The first comes from a trans man struggling with the impact of anti-LGBTQ+ legislation, fear for his safety, and overwhelming feelings of hopelessness. We ta ... Show More
29m 27s
Sep 2024
How to Break Free from Chronic Pain and Reclaim Your Life with Professor Peter O'Sullivan #472
Did you know that chronic pain affects 1 in 5 people globally and is the leading cause of disability? Whether it's persistent back pain, recurring neck issues, stubborn knee problems, or debilitating migraines, chronic pain can be both physically exhausting and emotionally draini ... Show More
2h 22m
May 2023
#254 - Shaming Yourself Is Not A Virtue, It's A Sin
In this episode, Dr. Tarryn MacCarthy talks about the harmful effects of being too hard on yourself and how it can lead to burnout, exhaustion, and even depression. She shares a story of a patient's mother who was angry and trying to find blame. Being on the receiving end of ... Show More
33m 52s
May 2
Do THIS 2 Minute Trick To Stop a Negative Spiral INSTANTLY (Overthinkers You Need to Hear This Episode!)
Have you ever caught yourself stuck in a spiral of negative thoughts? Do you have a go-to way to reset when you’re feeling overwhelmed? Today, Jay dives into one of the most common modern struggles: overthinking. Whether it's an unanswered text, a mistake at work, or uncertainty ... Show More
26m 58s
Jul 2024
#319 - CALM CLINICIAN SERIES: Not Letting Other People’s Anxiety Become Your Own
In this first episode of the CALM CLINICIAN SERIES, Dr. Tarryn MacCarthy talks about how we absorb others’ anxiety and stress. She explains why we let this happen and how to handle it. Dr. MacCarthy emphasizes the importance of self-awareness to prevent taking on other people&apo ... Show More
21m 3s
Jan 2025
#345 - Find More Time In Your Day
In today’s episode of The Business of Happiness podcast, Dr. Tarryn McCarthy shares heartfelt insights on how healthcare professionals, especially dentists, can reclaim their time and joy. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by endless to-do lists or the constant pressure to over-pre ... Show More
33m 31s
Jul 2022
S2 Ep4: How to Make Peace with the Symptom Imperative (The Cycle of Chronic Pain)
Hello my loves! Today on the podcast we are going to talk about the 'all too common' Symptom Imperative. Are you exchanging one pain for another? Does your migraine resolve, only to be replaced by pelvic pain? Does JournalSpeak alleviate one symptom only to have anxiety or fear f ... Show More
40m 26s
Apr 22
How To Break Unconscious Patterns, The Power of Meditation, The Truth About Dopamine & Creating Lasting Change with Dr Joe Dispenza #549
Almost everyone today is addicted to something. From phones and social media to alcohol and drugs, our modern life has created an unprecedented epidemic of dependency. But what is actually driving this addiction and how can we actually break free? This week’s returning guest is D ... Show More
1h 31m
Nov 2024
The Truth About Modern Anxiety, A Surprising Way To Find Joy and Meaning & How To Transform Your Relationships with Alain de Botton #495
Have you ever wondered why, despite all our modern comforts, so many of us still struggle with unhappiness and anxiety? What if a more fulfilling life isn't about constant positivity but rather a form of ‘cheerful pessimism’? Today's guest is Alain de Botton. Alain is the founder ... Show More
1h 54m