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Jan 2024
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How Hustle & Hookup Culture Destroyed My...

Lily Rakow
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It’s here! “Deserts to Mountaintops: Choosing Our Healing Through Radical Self Acceptance” is officially available wherever books are sold. In this episode, Lily discusses the anthology writing process and a few core themes of her chapter, “I Am Your Friend Too”. 

A note from Lily: My chapter is vulnerable. I’m talking really raw & really, really real. And honestly, it’s terrifying. Some of you are new faces, some have been here for a while. And while I’ve grown up online, this is probably one of the most grown-up things I’ve done online. It’s my story of rejection and friendship and hookup culture and burnout and regaining the strength to understand that I don’t have to be “independent”. I’m allowed to be needy, I’m allowed to need my people. We weren’t supposed to do life alone. It’s so much bigger than a book - it’s a community. Get ready, this book might just change your life. Love, Lil


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